BECOMING You.

November 30th, 2020

You are who you hang out with…

I truly believe the most beautiful thing about relationship, whether it be family, friendly, or romantic, is the fact that we all have the opportunity to be so unbelievably purposeful in each others lives.

It has become apparent to me recently that I have some very divinely placed and appointed  relationships in my life. The saying, “You are who you hang out with” or even the biblical version, “Show me who you go with and I will show you who you are” has seemed very real and relevant lately. 

I spent the better part of the last year and a half of my life hanging out around people who were in the “big” world… big money, big careers, big important “friendships” with conveniently powerful people that could always offer something to each other… I fell in love with what it all appeared to be and fell deep into thinking the relationships I was building were good ones… People who wanted the best for me, who genuinely cared about me as a person, and people who would challenge me. Not to mention the “flashy” lifestyle that this time of my life seemed to have me in… Because of who I am as a person, I feel like at any other point of my life, falling into this flashy lifestyle trap and not keeping my eyes on what is Really important would have been inevitable… But something in me knew better… Knew that the calling on my life was too beautiful and purposeful than allowing myself to drown in this chauvinistic, lost, misplaced purpose sense of life that I had gotten myself into. 

Months ago, I made a decision in my life that I know was the right one. It didn’t feel good and it didn’t sit well at first, but I made a decision for myself that I KNEW deep down that I needed. Hard as it was, I knew it would be fruitful and benefit my character in the long run. Sometimes building up those muscles of walking away from something that makes you feel good but you know it’s temporary and deteriorating, sucks… It isn’t an easy muscle to make strong but it’s the MOST important muscle. 

Hear me on this… 

—Your ability to move beyond the things that do not serve Who. You. Want. To. Be is one of the most crucial things you can possibly learn how to do for yourself to have a happy and purposeful life.—

Read that again.

I immediately just started doing things I love to do, to keep my mind off of everything else and keep myself focused on what mattered and what was best for me. Little did I realize that I was truly moving into a crazy purposeful, very important, eye opening chapter of my life with people that were going to help get me there, and get me closer to who God has called me to be. My awareness, my emotional availability, my perspective of myself as a woman, my impact on the people around me… It’s all come out. It’s like… my choosing to make that important decision for myself put the feelers out into the world that I needed Real in my life, and then I opened my eyes one day and realized it was all around me. Blessings come with obedience. Obedience in what we feel God is calling us to do, and obedience to oneself. 

I truly believe that the way your life turns out has EVERYTHING to do with who you spend time with through the journey. I am thankful for where I have been, where I came from, where I am, and where I am going. I know where I am going and I know I am going to get there because I know who is going to be next to me, helping me get there.

Surround yourself with Real people. 

People who are here to Serve.

People who Actually want what’s best for you. 

People who are Willing and Wanting to give more than they are looking to take.

People who are humble and always wanting to improve.

People who aren’t lost trying to constantly prove their worth to people who don’t even care about them.

People who love the Lord!!

What we eat has everything to do with how we feel and how smoothly everything works throughout our body.

What we put in our car has everything to do with how that car runs and how long.

Where we put our plants has everything to do with how they grow and what blooms out of them, how fast, how big, and how beautiful…

Who we spend time with has EVERYTHING to do with where we end up, who we end up impacting, where we place our worth, how beautiful we are inside And out…. And how happy we can say we spent our lives when we are in those final moments. That’s what it’s all about if you ask me .